judgment

In relationships, the judgment is usually one sided. A friend told me about two former colleagues who were talking about another close friend at a party and not in very kind terms. The thing is, one of the silent onlookers happened to be a person this woman trusted blindly in some of the toughest times of her life. He had supported her and encouraged her, triggering a host of tender feelings. Understandably.
So far so good. But what happened eventually was a ruthless postmortem…one in which the said benefactor became the judge…It left me wondering why.
To string things together, a dear friend turned up with a book on Paanchali's version of the Mahabharata. How many people would have viewed the epic from her point of view? I may sound cliched when i say "gender discrimination" but what else is this?
The people i am talking about here belong to the liberated, elite, educated class. But beyond drinking at parties with women, they are still stuck in the medieval age. The rules which apply to them are not the same as those which apply to women, especially the ones they have been involved at some level with. Why? They'll spend years winning someone's trust and when the person is won over…she'll become a slut. Why?